Thinking of my childhood, there’s so much I wish I’d known.
I’d love to go back and tell myself, now that I am grown.
You were only nine or ten when the mean, cruel things were said.
People hit you, called you names, threw papers at your head.
You used to think to yourself, “If they only took the time to know me.”
“They would see I was a good person, generous, kind, and friendly.”
They laughed at your behavior, which was a result of your family strife
They judged you for your clothes and hair but didn’t know about your home life.
If I could go back and save you, I’d tell you it was okay.
You don’t need to pretend you’re sick because you’re scared of what they’ll say.
Go to school with your head held high and keep believing in yourself.
The ones who tease, laugh, and mock have their own problems and need help.
You are right; you would make a great friend; you’re funny, kind, and smart.
If they don’t see it, keep pushing forward, don’t hide in the dark.
You had so much love for yourself and were born with a heart of gold.
But the pain took its toll on you. You went down a dark and lonely road.
It took 25 years to get you to where you are today.
You have worked on your confidence and built yourself up along the way.
I am so proud of you and I wish I could have told you then.
If I could have shared all this with you when you were only ten!
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FYI: Research shows that laughter is helpful for trauma. I recently found a Facebook page that says it helps people heal trauma with silly & ridiculous Amazon products. This page has made me laugh quite often, taking my mind “almost” completely off some very hard times from both the recent and distant past. Maybe it will help others too.
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Rachel Wise is a certified school psychologist and licensed behavior specialist with a Master’s Degree in Education. She is also the head author and CEO at educationandbehavior.com, a site for parents, caregivers, educators, counselors, and therapists to find effective, research-based strategies that work for children. Rachel has been working with individuals with academic and behavioral needs for over 20 years and has a passion for making a positive difference in the lives of children and the adults who support them. For Rachel’s top behavioral strategies all in one place, check out her book, Building Confidence and Improving Behavior in Children, a Guide for Parents and Teachers. If you want Rachel to write for your business, offer behavioral or academic consultation, or speak at your facility about research-based strategies that support children, email her at rachelwise@educationandbehvior.com.
Comments
Rachel,
Your poem brought tears to my eyes, especially as I read it and looked at the young girl in the photo. Heart wrenching, to say the very least.
I am a bully advocate as well.
Please see my site at:http://www.BooksThatSow.com
My bully book, Teacher, Teacher, Can’t You See? is a story told in poetic style.
Cherrye S. Vasquez, Ph.D.
Hi Rachel,
what a beautiful and very moving poem! My heart went out to that little 10 year old girl.
Your poem resonated with me, having been on the receiving end of this negative behaviour, as a 10 year old immigrant!
I’m now a teacher, and my colleague and I co-write song-based teaching resources for schools. I wrote ‘BULLY-FREE ZONE!’ to provide primary schools with a child-friendly, positive behaviours approach to dealing with unacceptable behaviour.
If interested, I wrote a blog post about this, with a link to the video of students singing and spreading the anti-bullying message:’Bullying is NOT OK – NO WAY!’ http://tinyurl.com/agyfh6c
Nuala
Primary Teacher; Director, KEYSTONE CREATIONS ~ Educational Songs
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