This is part 2 of a series. Please see How to End Bullying Part 1: 19 Tips for Parents and Teachers
15 Tips to Stop Bullying for Kids
1. Walk away from the bully.
2. Change the subject.
Bully: You are so dumb and no one likes you!
You: (smiling) I wonder what we are doing in gym today!
3. Smile and shrug your shoulders when someone makes a mean comment to you. You know who you are and their words can’t change that or control you.
4. Seek out kind children to build friendships with.
If there are none to play with, find the activities you are interested in and focus on those until natural relationships with others develop.
5. Try to stay in groups of two or more, so you are not alone if a bully approaches you.
(Parents – If you are worried that your child is alone at school talk to the administrators and school counselor to see if your child can be paired with a buddy who may also be by themselves a lot).
7. To prevent cyberbullying, make any social media profiles private and only accept connections with people you know and trust.
If anyone starts bullying you, delete and block that person from your connections and tell an adult.
Do not respond to the person bullying you online. If you are being bullied online through other people’s social media profiles, immediately tell an adult.
8. If you ever feel like you need help from an adult for yourself or someone else, tell them. It is the right thing and okay to let someone know what is happening.
Children are often scared to tell someone about the bully because they think it will make it worse if the bully finds out. The adult does not have to tell the bully that and particular child told on them.
There are ways to address the bully without mentioning the victim(s). For example, tell the bully that teachers, parents, or kids have seen the behavior. Don’t mention anyone specifically.
Bullies commonly have more than one victim. It is the bullying behavior that cannot be accepted. The victim is not involved in that and does not need to help change the bully’s behavior.
9. Learn to process difficult emotions and respond in ways that feel good to you.
As you continue to do this you will become more comfortable and less of a target for bullies.
Here is a great video to show you how to be confident when dealing with a bully.
It is brave and admirable to help others getting bullied.
10. Get the child away from the bully by inviting them to join you.
For example, if Johnny is being picked on and called names, walk over to him and say “Hey, do you want to come play tag with me.”
11. Tell the child being bullied that their teacher is looking for them (making up a reason for them to escape).
12. Make statements to get the bully to stop. Examples include: “a teacher is coming”; “stop, you’re going to get in trouble”; “Why are we standing around watching this? Let’s go!”
13. Never join in any bullying.
14. Do not stand around watching bullying.
15. If you know a child is being bullied, ask them how they are doing and remind them that it is not their fault.
See Part 1 of This Series: How to End Bullying Part 1: 19 Tips for Parents and Teachers
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