As a behavior specialist and school psychologist, I often hear parents of children on the autism spectrum asking what support schools can provide for their child. Children with autism often have an Individualized Education Program (IEP) in school to enable them to have specific goals, accommodations, and modifications; however, some parents may be unsure of what should actually be put in the IEP or how schools can actually provide the supports listed. IEP’s do not always outline exactly what will be provided.
For instance, a child may have a goal to improve skills such as following directions, or it may state in their IEP that they will meet with the guidance counselor for social skills training; however, there is often a disconnect between the goals or accommodations and the details of how the services will actually be provided. Also, some strategies can be utilized even if there is no IEP in place.
Below You will find 12 ways that your school can support your child’s behavior, social skills, and learning: It is important to remember that this article does not encompass every strategy that can be used to support your child. There are many more so feel free to check out the listed related articles. Also, all children are unique, so different things may need to be tried to find what works best for your child.
FYI: Many of these strategies are helpful for ALL kids. Not just those with autism.
12 Support Strategies
1. Read Social Stories with/to Your Child. Sometimes children with autism have anxiety or do not know the expectations in a social situation such as coming to school, going to the doctor, or going to a restaurant. Social stories can help prepare them for the expectations and get them familiar with an upcoming situation. Social stories can be created for any situation. For instance, if your child has a difficult time following the routine in the cafeteria, a social story can be used to get them familiar with the routine. After reviewing the story a few times, they can practice it before putting it into action.
You can create social stories using Microsoft Word and Google Images, or you can take your own pictures. Here are some examples of social stories:
All About Going to School
All About Going to the Doctor
I am Going to the Dentist
I am Going to a Restaurant
I Hate the Word No
2. Practice Social Skills and Self Regulation. Some children with autism do not know how to handle their emotions in a stressful situation or what to say in a social situation. There are board games that present scenarios which allow children to practice, talk about, and think about what they would do if a challenging situation came up. They can role play using the scenarios in the board games and discuss how they can apply them to real life situations.
Some great board games are Mad Dragon: An Anger Control Card Game and Mind your P’s and Q’s! There are also a lot of activities children can do (besides board games) to practice social skills such as listening, turn taking, and following directions. For more, check out 5 Great Activities to Do with Your Social Skills Group.
3. Pair Your Child with a Buddy. Some children with autism have trouble finding a friend in school. This can be a source of anxiety. There are often other children in the same boat. Try to pair a child with another child that they could possibly make a connection with. Maybe they can create a project together, do a puzzle together, take a walk in the hall, or play basketball in the gym. Maybe an older student can be a helper to a younger student. If there is not a peer in the child’s class or grade to pair them with, try to think outside of the box. I am sure there is someone they can pair up with.
4. Give Your Child Time to Exercise. Research shows that exercise is great for reducing anxiety and improving self-esteem. We also know that children with autism often have a lot of movement needs. Exercise can help a child with autism reduce their anxiety, channel their energy productively, improve their self-esteem and take part in a social activity. Exercise is also a great way to practice self-control. Children with autism often thrive on routine and exercise can be built into any routine.
Related Article: How to Use Exercise to Support Kids with Autism and ADHD
5. Use a Schedule. As stated above, children with autism often thrive on predictability and routine. Having a familiar schedule that allows him/her to know what is coming next is a great way to alleviate anxiety and facilitate smoother transitions. Children who have trouble reading or who cannot read yet would benefit from a visual schedule. Some children benefit from being shown small portions of their schedule at a time as a whole day schedule can seem overwhelming. Other children do better when the have a schedule during a particular part of the day. For instance, if the class schedule simply states “complete morning routine” a child with autism may benefit from a more specific schedule (e.g., take off back pack, hang up coat, sit at desk, take out notebook and pencil). For more, check out
Sample of Visual Schedule
6. Provide Movement Breaks. As stated before, children with autism often have a lot of energy and the need to move. Your child can be given breaks throughout the day to engage in movement and channel the energy in a positive way. Movement breaks also give your child something to look forward to.
For instance, if they know that they will have a break after completing a reading activity, it can reduce anxiety about having to sit for a prolonged period. If a child has a need to move, it is only right to provide him/her with opportunities for movement. With-holding this will only make the child focus more on when he will be able to get his energy out and it will be harder for him to sit when needed. Movement breaks can include taking a walk, getting up an stretching, running errands in the school, passing out materials, doing chores in the school building, swinging on a swing, etc.
7. Utilize Hands-On and Visually-Based Activities as Much as Possible. Research shows that children with autism do best with tasks that are visually structured. 19 years of experience in this field has also shown me that children with autism often thrive with hands-on and movement based activities.
For instance, I taught a 6 year-old child with autism to learn letter sounds by taping letters to the wall and having him run and touch the right letter when I called out the letter sound. We also taped letters on the floor and had to jump on the letters in the right order to spell a word. This child was not interested in sitting and learning about letter sounds but once it was turned into a fun, structured game with movement, his engagement and participation greatly increased and he learned letter sounds and how to read basic words.
8. Provide Choices for Learning Activities when possible. All children like to feel a sense of control over their world and want to do what they love. Allowing your child to make choices about how he learns and what he learns, naturally leads to increased participation, engagement, and learning.
For instance, when I asked a child if he wanted to learn about ordinal places (1st, 2nd, 3rd) by drawing a picture or by lining up his transformers, he picked the transformers. He was engaged in the activity and with practice, understood the concept. I structured it in a visual way (we drew circles on paper in a line and put one transformer on each circle). We did first, second, third, and fourth position. The student had to identify who was in each position and name the position when it was pointed to. He was also asked to switch the transformers around (e.g., put the yellow in the first position and the red one in the second position). He needed guidance at first but eventually identified all places independently. This is just an example. Think about how choices can be incorporated into a child’s learning at school.
9. Provide Choices of Preferred Activities. Again, children want to feel some control over their environment. Many children benefit from breaks to engage in a preferred activity (e.g., computer time, play cards with a friend, draw a picture, read a book of choice). When a child knows that he has the opportunity to work towards preferred activities, he is often more willing to participate in a non-preferred learning activity (e.g., first we will review your math flash cards, then you can have ten minutes of computer time to do an activity of choice). I have personally seen the motivation and cooperation improve in a child with autism, when he/she knows what he is working towards, and when he/she will be able to take a break. Breaking up tasks into manageable steps with breaks in between leads to much greater engagement and learning, then trying to get a child to keep going when he needs a mental or physical break.
10. Structure Activities in a Way to Help the Child Know How Long the Activity will Last. Children with autism often do best when they know how long an activity or break will last so structure them in a clear way. This will lead to increased participation and easier transitions between activities.
For instance, if you are reviewing flash cards, have ten cards that the child can see. This way he knows, when you get through the ten cards, the activity will be finished. If you are doing a more open ended activity, like reading, you can use a timer (or visual timer for children who have trouble understanding the countdown of a traditional timer) to allow the child to know how long the activity will last.
There are several ways that you can clearly delineate the ending of an activity. Think about how to make the ending clear to the student. For an example of a visual timer, check out the Kids Visual Timer App on Itunes or do a search for a free visual timer in the app store on your mobile phone or tablet. You can also check Amazon for a real visual timer such as the one below.
11. Incorporate Interests and Strengths into Learning. We all do best when activities tap into our personal interests and strengths. For instance, if someone is just learning to read and does well with puzzles, use that to your advantage. Buy puzzles that incorporate a reading component. If someone else loves to draw and make posters, let them demonstrate what they learned in class by creating a poster. If someone is great at singing and making up songs, allow them to write a song to demonstrate a concept they learned. Think outside of the box to find ways to incorporate a child’s strengths and interests into learning.
12. Use Clear Concrete Instructions to Communicate Expectations (e.g., put your book away, line up). It is important to tell a child what you expect (e.g., take out your book and put it on your desk) rather than what you don’t expect (e.g., stop fooling around). Some children need directions stated one step at a time, only stating the next direction after they have completed the first. (“take out your book.” “put your book on your desk.”). Some children benefit from a list of each direction/step and/or visual images to understand the directions.
What do you think of these ideas? Do you agree or disagree? What else can we do to support children with autism in school? Please comment below and share if you found this helpful!
Rachel Wise is a certified school psychologist and licensed behavior specialist with a Master’s Degree in Education. She is also the head author and CEO at educationandbehavior.com, a site for parents, educators, and counselors to find effective, research-based strategies that work for children. Rachel has been working with individuals with academic and behavioral needs for over 20 years and has a passion for making a positive difference in the lives of children and the adults who support them.