Are you concerned because your child is not outgoing and doesn’t have many friends? Do you want your child to make friends and hang out with them instead of sitting alone in their room? Some parents consider this behavior to be abnormal or simply wrong. They don’t want their children to be shy or stay away from others. However, they fail to realize that a child may be introverted instead of shy.
Instead of incorrectly judging your child’s nature, you need to first discover whether a child is introverted or not. Here is a brief list of characteristics that are seen in introverted people. Take a look at it and determine if your child possesses most of the following characteristics:
- Prefers to listen instead of talking much
- Doesn’t have many close friends
- Communicates with family members, but doesn’t talk to strangers
- Prefers to be alone or likes activities with less people
- Prefers to stay in a closed room
- Enjoys creative things
- Gets annoyed in the company of other people after spending too much time with them
- Feels embarrassed when makes a mistake in front of others
- Doesn’t like to share feelings
This short list will give you an idea whether your child or teen is an introverted.
You can help shy kids become outgoing – You can give them confidence to make more friends. But, you just can’t change the nature of introverted children. Introverted children and teenagers are normal. There is nothing wrong with them; hence parents shouldn’t be concerned about their behavior.
Let’s now discuss how introverted children should be raised and treated by their parents:
- Never Hurt Your Children’s Feeling by Labeling them as Shy or Nervous
Every individual deserves respect. If introverted children are constantly treated in a negative manner, then this behavior will affect them both mentally and emotionally. Remember, these children are very interesting and thoughtful. As soon as they get comfortable, they are great to spend time with. So, treat them with care and respect, and realize the fact that there is nothing wrong with them.
- Introverted Kids are Often Creative and Passionate
You need to see if your child is interested in a particular activity. If your child likes drawing or playing soccer or writing stories, then you need to encourage them and help them enhance their passion and talent. Introverted kids feel more confident after they develop a talent. It gives them something to talk about with happiness. So, find what their passion is and help them cultivate it. You can later on connect your child with other children who prefer the same activity.
- Go to Events and Parties Early
Introverted children prefer to be alone. When they see a huge crowd, they get nervous and irritated. You don’t want your child to experience this at a party. Therefore, it is recommended that you take him/her to the party early. When people arrive later, he will think as though they are joining him. With this mental perception, he will not get annoyed so easily. Do the same thing when school starts. Show him the classroom, introduce him to his teachers and find out where the bathroom is.
- Don’t Force Your Child to Communicate with Strangers Very Confidently
No matter how hard you try, this won’t happen. It’s not in their nature. Introverted kids need to know someone very well before they can interact with them confidently. If you force them, then it will cause more harm than good. Remember, an introverted person doesn’t like a meaningless chit chat. They develop a relationship before sharing something important. So, let them go with the flow.
Introverted kids are as normal as other kids out there. It’s just that you won’t see them shouting or talking loudly. It’s their personality and they should be respected for how they feel and think.
Recommended E-Book: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (FYI-No Kindle Needed: Read on any device with the Free Kindle Reading App-Paperback Copy Also Available)
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